Feeling Like Self Harming ?
Question by Sam: Feeling like self harming ?
[rewrite]Well, I just sit in my room all day and cry all day.. My boyfriend and I broke up I assumed it was mutual but now he refuses to be friends or even talk to me and he already has a girlfriend even though the reason we broke up was because he only has time for himself.. I trusted my doctor when I said that I was planning on hurting myself.. Nothing specific but then she had my parents search my room behind my back and then she had the nerve to suggest residential treatment… I have sooo many issues but I can’t leave.. I carved my name into my leg which alarmed them.. I feel like self harming again:( but I’m too afraid that if I tell they will send me to Utah… What’s it like in teen residential treatment … Help please !!!
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Answer by Jessica
Sam please don’t self harm your ex seems like an idiot to me & he definatley didn’t deserve you! The fact you want to self harm tells me your struggling to cope, so is it just with your ex that’s making you feel this bad or is there other things going on?
Either way if you really feel like you need to self harm then maybe a residential place would be good for you, and it will stop you from cutting yourself – these scars you will regret so please think carefully before cutting
Take care
Xx
Answer by Sapphire
You have to talk to someone sweetie. I self harm still, and I’m terrified but I’m trying to work up the courage to talk to someone. Treatment would be a lot better than you suffering like this I’m sure. Please talk to your parents, and if you really don’t want to go then tell them that and maybe you can make another arrangement.
Please stop, no guy is worth it sweetie
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First thing is – Don’t ever feel guilty for needing to do that and don’t *ever* let anybody else make you feel guilty because of it.
Self harming, as you’ve described it, is a coping mechanism. Something you do to help you get through tough times. As a short-term coping mechanism it’s incredibly effective. You tend to get the effect you’re looking for almost instantly – I speak (type?) from experience.
Some people drink to get themselves through a difficult time, some take drugs, some smash things up, some cry, etc… The pain you’re trying to deal with, I’ll bet, is very intense and very scary, so you need an extreme method to deal with it – you’ve found it in self harming.
The big problem with it, as I said, is that it’s only a short term method of coping. The pain comes back after far too short a time so people get dragged into a cycle of needing to do it again and again and again – it can be almost like a drug addiction that way. Also, I’m sure you’d agree, it’s really not the healthiest way to deal with your problems.
Second, on to the lecture. The problem with any coping mechanism, long term or short term, is that they’re only really ways to hide from the pain for a while. It always comes back.
Refusing to hide, letting it in and working yourself through it can be one of the most terrifying things a person can ever face, but it’s the only way to make the pain go away for good. Perhaps you’re not ready for that – the only one who can know for sure is you – but that *is* one of the things that they could help you with in a residential treatment center.
Third, your doctor going behind your back with your parents was an appalling betrayal of trust. If it’s in your power to do so, I’d advise you to seek out a better one.
Last – Residential care really isn’t as bad as it seems. Again, I speak from experience. If you’re ready to start getting better then it can be an amazing environment to be in. You’d be with others who understand – *Really UNDERSTAND* – how you feel, you’d be in a place where literally everyone wants to help you get better – a place where you don’t have to worry at all about ordinary stuff like scumbag boyfriends and whatever new ho-bag he’s with, and you can just focus on resting and getting better.
On the other hand, if you’re not ready for going into that sort of thing and somebody tries to force you, it can end up doing a lot more harm than good. You need to be able to *trust* the people who are treating you.
I hope some of this helps. Stay strong and stay awesome. Above all, do what you need to do but please, please be careful. Good luck.
–Stix