I Am Trying to Help a Friend and He Is in Trouble, I Need Someone to Help. Please Is There Anyone Out There?

Question by fryeindustries2002: I am trying to help a friend and he is in trouble, I need someone to help. Please is there anyone out there?
My daughter met this kid (Jon) online several years ago. I started talking to him about a year ago when he had some problems and didn’t know what to do or where to turn. He is such a sweet kid. I say kid, he was 18, but is a kid to me. I have grown to love him like my own son. He has a big heart and he is very nice.

Well, onto Jon’s story. He lived with his mom until a few months ago. She has problems which I consider severe (drug use, alcohol abuse and sexual addiction). She has ties to at least one gang in Kansas; (not going to mention the city). He has a sister also that, for whatever reasons, hates him. She is a two-faced, back-stabbing, **** who has tried and is trying to get Jon hurt or killed.

Jon calls me whenever he needs to talk to someone about himself and his life. I have tried to get him to leave his city and get away from everyone there. But he loves his mom and wanted to help her. Which I can understand and I give him kuddos for that. But he has been kicked down so many times from family and friends that when he finally saw it, he was able to get away. He and a friend went to another Kansas city to start a new life away from all the trouble. The friend is from this city. Jon was not. Jon found a place to live and hoped all his problems were behind him. But not so.

This friend started acting very possessive and aggressive towards Jon. He called the police and talked to his landlord, but because this friend was from this town, everyone thought he was “so nice” they didn’t believe what Jon was telling them. The authorities basically gave this friend access to whatever and wherever he wanted, including Jon’s apartment. (Yes, I know, very unbelievable!!)

Anyway, Jon has some law enforcement in his family and called upon them to help him in this situation. They were able to come and get Jon out of this Kansas town and tell the friend never to come near Jon or his family again. (As the friend had made threats against Jon and his family.) Jon’s sister came and got him to take him home with her as Jon really didn’t want to live with his mother again. But as soon as Jon got home with sis, she turned into the manical, crazy person that she is.

She told Jon she wanted him to get a job. She told him he had to pay her to live there, with her, her husband and baby. So Jon gave her $ 500 to start with the first week. (This is money he earned while gone.) She told him he had to take care of her baby, his nephew. Which Jon enjoyed because he loves his nephew very much. He loves him as his own son. Which was good because daddy is a truck driver and is gone a lot of the time.

Ok Jon started taking care of the nephew — feeding, changing, bathing, everything that his sister should have been doing for her baby. But Jon loved him, so he didn’t mind. This would have been fine but sis started telling Jon he had to clean her house, every day! She would give him lists of things to do while she went out and shopped with money she didin’t have or while she sat on her sofa watching television. And he was supposed to find another job too, per sis.

Jon did all the housework, laundry, cooked and took care of sister’s baby. He would go to sleep at night tired and sis would wake him up at all hours of the night making him get up and clean something she didn’t like. He never did any of the work good enough for her. And if the house was to her liking, she would still make a mess and yell and scream at Jon to clean it up. Many times he never got a good night’s sleep as sis would wake him up yelling and screaming at him to get up and clean the house, cook breakfast or take care of her baby.

All the while, Jon would call me and talk to me about what was going on. I told him he needed to get out of there. He said he would as soon as he earned the money. But that was sideswiped as he would get a job and then sis would refuse to take him to work and he woud get fired. He had to walk wherever he went. Then sis would get mad that he lost his job and yell and scream at him more because he lost the job. Still the lists were there every day for him to do along with loads and loads of laundry that the family messed up.

Jon was never allowed to eat the food his sister bought. He gave her another few hundred dollars for food and bills the second and third weeks he was there. (This money came from the few jobs Jon was able to get until fired and from his savings. In total he gave his sister around $ 1,200 this first month.) Jon would call me and I would hear his sister in the background yelling and screaming with her already shrill voice that would go right thru your head. I had to hold the phone away from my ear when I called because I never knew if his sister was there or not. And when she started
yelling and screaming, it hurt my ears.

There were times when Jon called me and told me he was hungry. But he couldn’t eat anything because he knew sis would get angry and start yelling at him. Then when she got so thoroughly upset with him, she would tell him to leave. She would then lock all the doors so he couldn’t get back in. He found an old oversized shed in the back yard that he could get in and get out of the cold and wind or rain when sis locked him out. Jon would get back in thru an open window or with his key, when he had it with him.

Honestly, this is where i thought maybe i wasn’t hearing the whole story because it was incredulous the story I was being told. I honestly didn’t know to believe Jon or not. I never said anything to him or anyone else about this. But my doubts were laid to rest when a friend of Jon’s came to town one day. Jon thought this friend and I would be good together so he wanted us to meet. We would talk on the phone when Jon called me. This is when I found out that everything Jon was telling me was true. The friend, J, told me he had seen the lists sister gave to Jon every day to do. J said it was unreal the things sis wanted Jon to do. He helped Jon a couple of days while he was there. J said he couldn’t believe that they did everything on the lists she wanted but then would still complain and yell and scream about how they were done not to her liking.

There was one day Jon told sis they didn’t have water to make baby’s bottle two days in advance. (They have to use bottled water.) She didn’t do anything about it and when they didn’t have water for baby’s bottle, Jon told daddy’s mother. Daddy’s mother was livid. She came over and met with sis when she got home to find out why sis let her baby’s water run out. Sis told mother-in-law that it was Jon’s fault, he didn’t tell her. So mother-in-law got upset at Jon for lying to her. By this time, everything was Jon’s fault. If it rained and sis didn’t want it to, it was Jon’s fault. Everything was Jon’s fault while sis sat on her fat *** and didn’t do anything.

Jon and I are still talking thru all this. Finally, last weekend, we talked and I made a decision that would help him leave. He took it. Now sis baits Jon and wants him to get upset. I keep telling him to keep his cool. I know what sis is doing. She is trying to get him upset so she can show everyone how ‘crazy’ Jon is. She wants him put on meds to control him so he won’t put up such a fuss at her. She wants her maid and cook to stay there and help her do her housework that she is too lazy to do.

Now that sis is realizing she might just lose her houseboy, she cooks up another scheme. Now she starts telling everyone Jon molested her son. But yet, she doesn’t want him to leave! What mother in their right mind would want their child’s molestor to stay where he could molest further. I told Jon he needed to get out of there. Sis is going to drag him down. But I don’t understand the reasoning of this irrational woman. When Jon won’t react to her banters, she is beginning to hit Jon. She is also doing drugs in front of her baby and hitting the baby. Last week, she took the baby to the doctor as the baby had a fever. She got medicine prescribed for the baby and tried to give it to him that afternoon. He didn’t like it and spit it out. Sister hit the baby.

Sister also wants Jon to go for a mental evaluation trying to prove to Jon and everyone else he is crazy and needs to be on meds or in an institution. Sis lied on the forms and said she was Jon’s guardian until he was 21 (he is 19 now). She also said he can’t hold down a job, he is a habitual liar, he is on drugs, and other things that are not true. Now sis, thinking she might lose her houseboy, goes to the police and tells them Jon has molested her baby. Sis makes an appt with a doctor and takes baby to him. This doctor says nothing is wrong with the baby. So she takes to another doctor and he says the same thing. Sis takes the baby to another doctor that says yes, the baby was molested. So now the police come to question Jon since he is now the prime suspect.

I asked Jon why would his sister be so dumb as to do this when she doesn’t want him to leave. Does she not realize that if convicted, he will go to jail? Jon says he doesn’t think she is that smart. So now Jon is fighting for his freedom and his life. Sis is going to make sure Jon’s life is ruined one way or another. Oh and by the way, she hates me. She doesn’t want us helping Jon at all. And because i support Jon and believe him, sister wants me gone!!

Today, Child Protective Services took the baby away from the home. Jon is not there. He found somewhere else to live yesterday. However, the baby was given to daddy’s mother. Daddy’s mother thinks Jon is guilty and will do whatever she has to to make sure Jon is convicted. If that means, putting marks on baby, then that is what she will do. But my question is, where is daddy? Why isn’t daddy home now? He has had several days to know about the charges against Jon for molesting daddy’s son and he still isn’t home? Makes you wonder, doesn’t it?

Please read this and send to as many ppl as you can. We need to get Jon’s story out. We need everyone to know what is going on in a little town in Kansas. Why is someone being railroaded to the gallows, so to speak? Why isn’t there anyone to back up Jon. This is my way of being behind him 100%. I believe he didn’t do anything.

JON IS INNOCENT. He needs this story to get out ASAP. He needs everyone to know what is going on. Please read this story. Thanks very much. And if you want to talk to Jon about this, please call him on his cell phone (620) 430-8895 any time of the day or night. He will answer any questions and hopes there is someone out there to help him clear his name and prove his innocence. Jon’s email address is [email protected]. Thank you so much.
My mom is writing this about a great friend of mine up in Kansas, the names have been changed to protect loved ones and I have been getting death threats to me and my mom from some people in this true story happening right now. I hope i dont get anymore nor my mother for helping someone that is just a friend. Is there anyone out there that can help or do something, please?
For anyone that says anything about his email and phone number…..he asked me and my mom to post it so we did. So he can have someone or one person talk to him…….

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Answer by CGIV76
This long story does not belong on Y/A. I suggest that Jon contacts a professional for advice.

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