Question by rlblondes75: Im in a custody battle with a bipolar mother who has sleepovers with mentally ill public drug users. Unfit?
Keep in mind my son is present for all of this…In addition to her own illness, her best friend who I found has babysat my son and stays over some nights posted a picture on Facebook of her smoking pot (Remember Michael Phelps?) There are also several postings about her drug use including “hard narcotics” and references to a BDSM relationship with my ex. In the past she has stolen my exes precription pills and been found almost bled to death in a bathtub. I also found out my ex has a new “friend”, a schizophrenic on disability (I know him as an aquaintance) who I have video of his truck in her driveway staying overnight (my son told me he was “staying with them a little while”) Another friend coming over has a police record such as “ELUDING POLICE” She filed a Protective Order against me in 2007 without any proof of abuse based on my own Bipolar disorder (She wasn’t admitting her own at the time) when I wouldn’t stay with her so she could live her alternative lifestyle. I am stable and in a healthy relationship with a woman who has known me ten years and sincerely believes I am not capable of violent acts (she has no mental illness or record). We are looking to get a house together and she supports my decision to pursue full custody of my son as she knows I’m not the abuser I am alleged to be in addition to how my son reacts to me (he hates going home on Sundays). What are my options? Can my attorney have these people banned from coming around at the very least legally? If it is not those degenerates it will be someone else (She has filed three Protective Orders, the first was when I caught her trying to have a threesome while locking my son in his bedroom.a week after we separated. I naturally protested and she filed the order. She dropped it six days later. The second time I had tried moving on with my life with another woman who had it more together. She dropped that order as soon as she found out I broke things off. The third time was when I told her my son was going with me, he was not safe with her.) I fought for eight months just to get two days a month supervised by my parents. I got that extended to full supervised weekends. The protective order ends in November and I have abided by it entirely (I sent a family member to get the video evidence). I have saved every document that clearly shows a pattern of conflicting evidence presented by her (statements indicating I have never hit, cursed, or harmed her physically) as well as a police report from the last night that indicates no abuse as she later stated. The courts wont allow past issues to be brought up but the first things metioned are recent (Im hoping if she brings up the POs I will have the right to at that point expose her perjury and inconsistency in obtaining them). I have a competent attorney working for me, and unfortunately the case is so complicated it costs me a hundred dollars everytime I just give him a written summary of what she is doing or engaging in. I can’t find anything online about shady aquaintences in Virginia related to proving a mother unfit (Her bipolar causes poor judgement…i.e. bipolar drug using friends and schizos around my son) She has actually used my bipolar (before she admitted to her own) as a reason to keep me away, how are these degenerates any better? Id appreciate some good advice.    Read more...